I believe we were all born to be a flood. It is our birthright, our intrinsic nature. However, life calls to us to find this out for ourselves. In this journey of discovery, all human beings will experience the many ways in which they can be pushed and tested, deeply wounded and healed.
The happenings of our lives impact us, both consciously and unconsciously. Some may do so minimally, while others affect us to a depth that shakes our very foundation. For certain, none of us get through our first five years without some developmental wounding, and it is in these early years that we create the foundational map through which we navigate how we see ourselves, others and the world whether we are aware of it or not.
The ancient calling of “Know Thyself” rings true. Whether it is in working through the conflicts and challenges of our lives, and/or within the discovery of the freedom that is available to us right here and now, our journey calls us to the possibility of learning, changing, healing, growing and transforming the ground of our lives, to be a flood upon this earth.
I know we have within us the capacity to transform our difficult and painful challenges, as well as deepen our vibrant and abundant strengths. Without getting rid of the messiness of human life, but rather in relating to our experiences in a different way, we can more fully be the living expression of our deepest authentic self/Self.
The therapeutic/life practice I offer includes three main components: Inquiry, embodiment, and relationship.
Inquiry is a conscious process of focused attention, curiosity and exploration. In focusing attention, the practice is three-fold: slowing down, quieting the noise in our system (body, mind, heart) and turning our attention inward. We allow for the present moment experience to arise. Curiosity informs our process through a “not knowing mind.” It is an act of childlike innocence, a vulnerability that is contained. It encourages us to let go of efforting, fixing, and controlling our process while eliciting inquiry’s investigative nature. This organic progression takes the inquiry into an exploration of the old and new territory found, allowing for insight, felt understanding, and integration to occur.
Core material, composed of beliefs, nervous system patterns, bodily sensations, memories, images, emotions and attitudes about self, other and the world can all be gently exposed and explored through an inquiry process.
Our past, composed of the stories we’ve woven and the maps upon which we’ve navigated through life, follows us unknowingly into the present. Inquiry allows for us to see, feel and be with our past as it impacts us right now. This is the catalyst for change.
To live an embodied life is to fully inhabit our journey.
Our body is a gateway into our deepest knowing. Working within the body allows us to: access our core unconscious; reveal what the mind can never remember and know; live in present moment time where change happens; and experience the “felt sense” of our lives. Embodiment offers us aliveness, growth and intimacy.
Embodied practice is a present focused and experiential mind-body dialogue. I believe the body/psyche knows what it needs and how to heal when deeply listened to, as well as when seen and witnessed by another. By quieting down and turning toward ourselves, the body reveals memories, images, sensations and experiences as they are felt and known in present moment time. The impact of our personal and cultural stories about self, other and the world as they live in us now become clearer and more deeply felt. The ensuing dialogue between mind and body, past and present, self and other takes us deeper into our core unconscious, where we can uncover the thematic material that creates our life strategies and barriers to living well. As we open ourselves to this process, we can heal old wounds while discovering the unlived parts of ourselves. With compassionate attention and a witnessing presence, we begin to feel the intimate possibility of living more fully the lives we are born to live. And then we do…live them. (See The Hakomi Method).
Humans are relational creatures. Our nervous systems are wired for relationship; our bodies yearn for the physical intimacy of being seen, of contact and touch; our hearts depend on another’s presence and attuned resonance for its physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual health. Upon the many paths we can walk as we heal and grow, learn and love, the engaged, empathic and loving presence of another is a key to our transformation.
The “separate self” is illusory; it cannot exist without “another.” Being that the self is created in the context of another from the moment of conception, we, too, can be changed and transformed, inside and out, through conscious relationship.
Within the healing environment, we engage in a dynamic relationship with the inner landscape of ourselves, as well as with the person who sits across from us. We heal from the exploration and understanding of both. Both parties are impacted and the mutual sharing of this relational impact has a tremendous healing influence.
Being in relationship with another is a work of art in progress. Together, as the creative artists that we are, we can re-perceive our past and the limiting stories we’ve created, while simultaneously re-envisioning our present and future lives.
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.
—Leonard Cohen, “Anthem”